The art of self-love

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During the first couple weeks of February, we often direct our focus to finding a perfect gift or planning a grand gesture for that special someone. With Valentine’s Day coming up, the pressure is on to find a cute card, their favourite chocolates, the most beautiful blooms, a piece of expensive jewelry, or plan a romantic dinner for two.

While the 14th is absolutely a day to celebrate all these wonderful gestures of love to others, we often neglect to celebrate the love of ourselves. And at this time of year, after weeks of cold and darkness and with weeks more to go, it’s especially important to make sure to practice self-love regularly to help get you through.

Self-love is not about being self-absorbed, arrogant, or egotistical. It’s not about getting your way at the expense of others, or only looking out for number one. It’s not about winning.

Self-love is an essential requirement for truly loving others. You cannot love others without first loving yourself. So in addition to honouring that special someone on February 14th, be sure to honour and celebrate yourself and be YOUR Valentine.

How will you celebrate self-love? Maybe curl up with a good book or schedule yourself an afternoon massage. Perhaps you can take a nice walk out in nature and enjoy the time with your own thoughts. Or try out that new recipe you’ve been meaning to get to and maybe have an extra slice of dessert. And you don’t have to be alone to practice self-love. Share a cup of tea or coffee with that friend you haven’t seen in awhile, or that person who always knows how to make you laugh. Great conversation is a great way to get to know and love yourself.

My plan? Sleep in, then snuggle with Kiwi on the couch while we binge-watch our favourite Netflix series. And of course taking a nice long bath in the evening, surrounded by candlelight.

For a little guidance on self-love, I have shared some wonderful quotes from some incredibly inspirational and loving people:

We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. – John Lennon

Self-love is an ocean and your heart is a vessel. Make it full, and any excess will spill over into the lives of the people you hold dear. But you MUST come first. – Beau Taplin

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. – Buddha

Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives. – Louise Hay

Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting. – William Shakespeare, Henry V

Happy Valentine’s Day!

With love,



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